Hospital Rant!

Last week we headed over to Seattle Children’s Hospital for Jackson’s 6 month eye exam.  Because of the seizure medication he takes (Sabril/Vigabatrin) he has to have an ERG every six months.  Our local children’s hospital does not have the capability to do this test so we drive 4 hours to the other side of the state to do it.  The ERG tests the nerves of Jackson’s eyes.  It entails putting him under anesthesia and is only about a 30 minute procedure.  The purpose is to test whether or not Jackson has any permanent peripheral vision loss due to the medication.

Sabril has been Jackson’s miracle drug.  Before we put him on the drug Kevin and I had to make the difficult decision between risking vision loss and taking a chance that this medication might stop the seizures that plagued our little one.  It was one of those tough decisions that parents should not have to make, but the kind that many parents of special needs kiddos have to make daily.  Jackson’s seizures stopped within 4 days of taking the medication.  After 1 year and 5 months of watching our son seize, he was finally free.  The elation I feel about this is not something I can write about.  While he has had maybe 4 seizures since being on this drug that is nothing compared to the 10-15 he was having daily.  Every day Jackson doesn’t have a seizure is a miracle day to me.  It gives him a better chance at learning and progressing and that isn’t something you can put a price on. 

Having said that, it was made quite clear to us by the doctor at Seattle Children’s Hospital that the seizure medication has done damage to Jackson’s peripheral vision.  While I knew this was the risk, I still felt like the doctor threw a baseball into my chest when he told us.  The damage isn’t catastrophic.  Jackson isn’t blind peripherally.  He has about 60% of what a normal person has.  Things are more difficult for him to see peripherally but his forward looking vision is still good.  The good news is that it won’t get any worse.  The bad news is that it won’t ever get better, the damage is done.  We took the risk and now Jackson will have to pay the price.  I feel extraordinarily guilty.  But I am also quite aware that the risk was worth it.  Being in this position as a parent is ridiculous, infuriating, heartbreaking, and makes me want to throw dishes at the wall while screaming curse words.  This is definitely not what I thought parenting would be for me.  But it is.  If I could call my Dad and ask for his advice I know exactly what he would say – “Well there isn’t anything you can do about it now Honey.  You just got to move on with your life.” So that is what I have to do.  Move on and celebrate every day that the seizures stay away, far away. 

Now on to my Seattle Children’s Hospital rant!  When I called to schedule this procedure I explained to the scheduler that Jackson has special needs, won’t be able to understand why he can’t eat (you can’t eat 12 hours prior to this procedure) and is absolutely obsessed with food.  Therefore, please schedule us as early as possible.  The time they scheduled us to arrive – 10:15 a.m.!  That is not as early as possible.  So we tried to sleep deprive Jackson the day and night before thinking he might sleep in long enough for us to just get up and go to the hospital.  When did Jackson wake up?  6:00 a.m.  Yup.  Shortly after waking up the crying/screaming/why aren’t you feeding me yells began.  So we quickly packed up and jumped into our car and drove around Seattle for a couple of hours trying to calm him down.  Driving around Seattle in rush hour is about as much fun as walking on glass in your bare feet.  We got to the hospital and checked in right at 10:15.  We waited maybe 10 minutes and they took us back to the pre-op area.  The nurse quickly saw us and got all the information she needed.  This whole time Jackson is screaming with little tears running out of his eyes.  I asked the nurse how much longer.  Her response – “The anesthesiologist will be in in about an hour.”  Say what?!  I actually kind of laughed because I thought she was kidding.  But she wasn’t.  She explained to us that Jackson’s procedure was scheduled for 11:30 a.m.  I was infuriated.  Jackson is screaming, and at this point it is just plain cruel because he has no idea what is going on and all he is thinking is “I am hungry, why aren’t Mama and Papa giving me any food.”  After making it clear to the nurse that we were VERY unhappy we took Jackson and started walking around the hospital for an hour.  We went back to the pre-op room just in time for the anesthesiologist and doctor to arrive.  We also let them know we weren’t happy.  Off Jackson went for his procedure and off Kevin and I went to eat.  We were also starving!  After meeting with the doctor for the results of the test they told us to wait in the waiting room and they would page us to come back and be with Jackson while he woke up from the anesthesia.  So we waited.  And waited.  And waited.  I finally had enough and told Kevin I was done waiting and that I was going to go get our boy.  The receptionist at the surgery desk didn’t seem too happy when I told her I was going to go back there and find my son.  She was like “you can’t go back there” and I was like “watch me”.  After a couple of calls and heavy sighs, like it was such an inconvenience, she said we could go back to the post op room.  As if I needed her permission.  We finally got our boy back and after letting him wake up for a while we were on the road home.  I couldn’t get out of that hospital fast enough. 

Hospital administrators who sit at their desks making up ridiculous procedures that benefit only the hospital should have to spend a day in that pre-op section and see what they are doing to the children they serve.  Jackson wasn’t the only one crying.  We weren’t the only annoyed and frazzled parents.  When it is a hospital specifically for children, their rights and needs should come first.  Our health care system is confined to rules, procedures and legalities.  Even the littlest patients are falling victim to this absurd system.  Next time we go to Seattle Children’s I am going to give them a sheet with MY rules for how my son will be treated and I will throw their rules in the garbage.  We will see how they like that.

They always say that times changes things, but you actually have to change them yourself." — Andy Warhol

Kid Update

It seems my posts lately have mostly been about me so it is about time I talked about my adorable, funny, goofy kid. 

Jackson’s big achievement this summer has been sitting up.  On March 13^th he sat up by himself for the first time.  He did it again a few times over the next few months.  But in the last month something has clicked with him and he is constantly sitting up by himself.  It’s a beautiful sight to see.  Not only is he able to sit up by himself but he is also rotating while sitting.  If he is facing away from something he wants to see he twists his torso, moves his legs and swivels around.  It is awesome!  It has given him some independence and confidence too.  His frequent sitting up has also increased his ability to sit for longer periods of time.  He used to only be able to sit up for a couple of minutes.  Now he is sitting up for as long as 15 minutes.  When Jackson starts to fall back or sideways he has learned to reach his arm out to stop himself.  All of these skills he has acquired over the last month or so have been a small miracle to me.  It has taken 4 years to see my son sit himself up, words can’t express the joy I feel when I watch him do it.  I just can’t get enough of it!

In May Jackson had a seizure.  Then in June he had another one.  Last weekend we were swimming in the lake when he had another seizure.  These new seizures are different from his old ones.  His body goes limp, he seems unreachable, he dry heaves, he has tiny little twitches, they last 5-10 minutes, he gets overheated and turns red, I can’t feel his heartbeat, and when they are done he is exhausted and falls right to sleep.  They scare the crap out of me.  The one last weekend prompted a call to the neurologist and an appointment with him this week.  His neurologist says they sound like Complex Partial Seizures.  The seizure medication he is on now also treats these types of seizures.  He is on a very low dose of the medication right now so we have room to increase his dosage, which is what the neurologist suggested.  Also, the last time we saw his neurologist was back in March.  Since then he has grown 4 inches and gained 6 pounds.  It seems he has gone through a big growth spurt.  Jackson will have an EEG at the end of this month to see what is going on in that cute head of his.  In the meantime I just hope the seizures stay away.  The last year has been a dream having those seizures gone.  I know that fighting seizures is something Jackson will do his whole life, but seeing who he is and the progress he makes when the seizures aren’t happening is wonderful and something I want to continue to see every day.  Fingers crossed!

Next week we head back to Seattle Children’s for another ERG (eye exam).  We have to do this every 6 months to test if there is any damage to his eyes from the seizure medication he is on.  Not looking forward to it as they have to put him under anesthesia to do the exam and I hate that.  But it has to be done and if this is the price to pay for his relative seizure free life then so be it. 

Communication with Jackson continues to be a battle.  He knows a little sign language – eat, more, please.  I am trying to teach him a new sign right now for “up”.  That way if he wants us to pick him up then he can sign it.  Signs are hard because he only really uses the right arm and hand.  The left arm still doesn’t work very well and the left hand is better but not real useable.  Trying to come up with one hand/arm signs is tricky.  He does have a couple of words he uses – Mama and Papa.  Papa is just coming around, meaning Jackson is just now starting to use it.  He has said it a handful of times as of now but I am hopeful that soon he will be saying Papa as much as Mama.  I just love hearing Mama come out of his mouth! 

Jackson continues to throw his fits, although I don’t think they are as numerous as before we went to Yellowstone on vacation.  I have been trying to keep him busy and on the go.  It is a lot of work!  The other day I saw a couple of friends post on Facebook about how sad they are that school is starting.  I thought to myself “I can’t wait for school to start!”  My kid needs out of the house and to be around other little kids.  And Mama needs a little down time from entertaining.  Bring on the school!  We have had a lot of fun though on our quest to keep busy.  Lots of trips to the lake and pools, Art on the Green, short and long road trips, walking trails, anything I can find that will make my kid happy. 

Lots of people have asked about Jackson and his puppy.  Jackson and Loki had love at first sight.  Then Jackson went through “I am sick of this puppy biting on my feet, hands and arms” phase.  While at the same time Loki went through “Oh I just love biting on Jackson’s tasty little feet, hands and arms” phase.  They didn’t mesh during this period.  Luckily Loki’s biting phase is coming to an end and the kid and dog are back to loving one another.  Jackson loves Loki’s kisses, he thinks they are hilarious.  He also loves pulling on Loki’s ears, tail and anything he can get a hold of as Loki walks by.  They are particularly cute when riding in the car together.  Loki lies across the backseat and has his head on Jackson’s lap while Jackson pats/pets Loki’s head as we drive around.  They are buddies.  The only downside is that Loki has grown, really grown, but is still under the assumption that he is a tiny little puppy.  He still tries to sit on Jackson’s lap and needless to say that is a recipe for disaster.  The best is when Jackson is rolling around and rolls onto his tummy.  Loki runs over and lies across his back, pinning Jackson down and squashing him.  Jackson yells in protest and Loki has this big grin on his face like “Oh my boy and I are having the best time.”  Loki never understands why I pull him off Jackson.  Jackson is forever grateful I did. 

That is where the kid is at.  Growing like a weed, sitting up on his own, hanging out with his puppy, and throwing fits until Mama finds something to entertain him.  Jackson can be exhausting but fun.  Sometimes I find it hard to find happiness in my life when I am so caught up in trying to make him happy.  I think I just need to remember that “Happiness is a place between too much and too little.” -Finnish proverb

Reprieve

It’s been a difficult summer with Jackson.  His boredom and not getting what he wants manifests into fit after fit after fit.  Just when it seemed I was about to lose it, I got a reprieve in the form of a road trip.  The idea of 8 days in the car with a 4 year old may not seem wonderful to most people, but to us it was heaven.

My Grandma turned 90 last week and the party to celebrate her major milestone was in her hometown of Wheatland, Wyoming.  We decided we would drive there and make a vacation of it.  Lucky for us Yellowstone and the Grand Tetons just happened to be on the driving route.  The days leading up to our departure were filled with Jackson screaming and tantrums.  For a brief period I thought maybe something was wrong with him medically.  But I ruled that out based on the fact that he would change his behavior when he was getting something he wanted.  A few times I just put him in the car and drove around, which quickly stopped his fits and put him in a good mood.  I think in his mind he thought he was going somewhere, doing something, and that made him happy.  I had a feeling that our trip to Grandma’s house would make him happy, but I had no clue how happy. 

The first day of our trip was about an 8 hour drive to Gardiner, Montana.  I was hopeful Jackson would do well for 4 hours.  Surprisingly the kid was joyful, making happy noises, laughing and entertaining himself for the whole drive!  We stopped every 2.5 hours or so to let him roll around and eat and have a break from the car seat.  By the time we got to Gardiner he was as happy as he was when we left that morning.  He even tolerated us putting him back in the car after setting up camp and eating dinner so we could spend some of the evening in Yellowstone.  It was amazing!  Kevin and I thought for sure our luck would run out the next day.  Nope.  It was a long day in Yellowstone, in and out of the car to see the sights, and it was ridiculously hot.  But Jackson was a trooper, he continued on with his happiness.  Third day on the road, same thing.  Arrived at Grandma’s where we spent 2 days, happy as could be.  Headed to the Tetons, happy, happy, happy.  Went into Jackson Hole, Wyoming (6^th day on the road) and a massive meltdown ensued.  For some reason it was shocking to us.  What was wrong with our angelic boy?  We soon figured it out.  We were walking by restaurant after restaurant and not stopping!  Jackson thought we were coming to this tourist trap to eat!  We found him some food and he resumed his happiness.  He only had one other meltdown and that was at Old Faithful.  I think this meltdown was due to being over tired.  After a nap he was fine again.  8 full days on the road, 2 mini meltdowns, amazing!  The kids apparently just needs to be going all the time.  He doesn’t want to lie around the house relaxing the summer away.  He wants to hit the open road, listen to great music, and see the sights.  I love that about him, but since we can’t afford anymore weeklong road trips this summer we may be in trouble.  I think though that our summer plans from here on out will be some weekend camping trips or day trips to various spots here in the Pacific Northwest.  If that will make Jackson happy and give us a break from the screaming fits then that is what we will do.  As Iris Murdoch once said “One of the secrets of a happy life is continuous small treats.”  Jackson’s small treats are road trips.  My small treat is a non-fit throwing child.  Open roads are our salvation.

The reprieve was wonderful.  We weren’t home 15 hours before the fits resumed.  Oh how I wish to be on the road again.  For now I will just have to try and keep my sanity, what’s left of it anyway. 

P.S. If you are a parent of a child with a permanent disability you can get a free lifetime pass into all the National Parks.  It is called an Access Pass.  You can also get discounted camping fees.  One night our camping would have been $25 but was only $10.25 with the Access Pass.  Go to any National Park website for details. 

Letting Go

It seems like forever since I have been able to sit down and write.  My heart and mind just aren’t in the right place at the moment.  I’ve been struggling internally and I know I am not dealing with things very well.  I suppose that is why I haven’t felt like sitting down and writing on my blog.  Putting my thoughts down and sharing them sometimes is a little overwhelming to me.  But when I started my blog I promised myself that I would share those uncomfortable things because maybe, just maybe, it might help someone else who was reading my blog.  I didn’t realize though that my blog would become so personal and in the course of writing it I would lose my parents.  Life surely is nowhere near what I thought it might be.  And I hate that!

I am no stranger to grief.  I grieved the loss of 2 friends in high school, one the year after high school, my mom when I was 26, and grandparents through the years.  But losing my Dad was the worst.  Now my step-mom Sandy is gone too.  When my Mom and Dad died I wished so badly that I was able to say goodbye, that I had more time with them.  I got both those things with Sandy.  Oddly, it didn’t make it easier.  I think it was actually worse because having more time meant that I had to watch Sandy die.  Anyone who is familiar with Lou Gehrig’s disease knows that it is a cruel, nasty, unforgiving disease.  Watching her deteriorate robbed me of so many memories I had of her.  They were replaced with the memories of her dying.  Grieving for Sandy is now mixed in with grieving for Dad.  But the one thing that has helped me is that knowing they are together again, somewhere out there.  If I close my eyes I can hear them resuming their old arguments and being ornery to each other again.  I like thinking about that.  Anyone who knew Dad and Sandy knew their M.O. was banter and arguing.  26 years of it made quite the entertainment for a lot of us.  If I just focus on that the tears seem to subside.  For the last month I have just been living on the edge of a crying fest.  Frankly, I don’t have time for that so I just push it aside.  I am starting to realize that is not a good thing.  But how do I take care of my little boy when I am a mess?  And speaking of my little boy….

It’s been a tough couple of weeks with him.  He of course caught a cold right before we left for our two week vacation to Florida.  He managed to shake it fairly quickly but of course Mommy and Daddy caught it too.  Once we got past that he had a few fussy days.  One thing that did cure those fussy moments was Grandma and Grandpa’s pool, the ocean and walks on the beach.  Oh how he loves walks on the beach and the salty water of the ocean.  It is so funny to watch him lick his lips while in the ocean.  You would think he had chocolate lips they way he giggles and smiles.  Once we got home he started having fussy days.  He wasn’t our typical happy boy anymore.  I thought maybe it was because we were out of our routine of going to school.  But now I am thinking maybe something is hurting him again.  That is most frustrating thing.  He can’t communicate, I am not a mind reader, we have no way to communicate.  I just want to scream.  I hate that he is hurting, I hate that he is crying, I hate that I have no clue what to do.  It just adds to that grief of not having a “normal” kid.  I want my kid to be able to tell me what is wrong.  Just say “Mom my tummy hurts” or “Mom my head hurts”.  It doesn’t seem like it is a lot to ask but apparently if falls along the line of having George Clooney be my pool boy (if I had a pool).  This of course sends me into the whole “why my kid?” questioning routine.  Let me just say this – I am sitting here at Starbucks writing this post.  There are 2 boys at a table nearby with their mom.  They are probably about 9 or 10ish.  They are just chatting and laughing and happy.  It gives me tears in my eyes to watch them.  Does this woman know how incredibly lucky she is?  She can sit in Starbucks and talk to her little boy.  He can tell her what he is thinking and she gets to hear it!  I’m probably never going to have that.  And I wonder why she is so lucky and I’m not.  I wonder what I did that was so bad in my life that my little boy was born with brain damage.  I mostly wonder when I will ever get over not getting the little boy I dreamed I would.  My guess is never. 

The hardest part of everything that is going on in my life is the fact that I am struggling with it.  I have always been a pretty strong, resilient person so it is difficult for me to struggle.  I feel weak and helpless and I really, really don’t like that feeling.  I want my strong self back.  The funny thing is that I am starting to realize that what made me so strong was that I had my Dad to lean on.  He always made me feel like I could and would get past anything.  I don’t have that reassurance anymore.  My crutch is gone and I have fallen down.  Somehow, sometime I am going to have to stand on my own two feet.  I miss my crutch. 

Last week I went to counseling for the first time.  The grief of Dad, Sandy and Jackson is taking a toll.  I’m not sure if it will help me but I’m sure it can’t hurt.  Of all the counselors to go to mine just happens to have a child with special needs too.  That was comforting to know.  It really helps to have someone in my life who can understand what I am going through.  Really understand.  I have so many friends who try but unless you have a child with special needs you just don’t really know.  Maybe having someone who has walking in shoes similar to mine will be able to help me.  In the meantime I need to learn how to let go.  I need to let go of Dad and Sandy.  I need to let go of the fact that Jackson isn’t who I thought he was going to be.  I need to let go of the life I thought I was going to have.  I just don’t know how to.  Yet more lessons to learn on this journey called life.  Being a teacher you would think I love to learn.  However, this course is one I wish I could skip. 

“We must be willing to let go of the life we have planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us.”  Joseph Campbell

Cracked Pot

An elderly Chinese woman had two large pots, each hung on the ends of a pole which she carried across her neck.

One of the pots had a crack in it while the other pot was perfect and always delivered a full portion of water.

At the end of the long walks from the stream to the house, the cracked pot arrived only half full.

For a full two years this went on daily, with the woman bringing home only one and a half pots of water.

Of course, the perfect pot was proud of its accomplishments.  But the poor cracked pot was ashamed of its own imperfection, and miserable that it could only do half of what it had been made to do.
After two years of what it perceived to be bitter failure, it spoke to the woman one day by the stream.

'I am ashamed of myself, because this crack in my side causes water to leak out all the way back to your house.'
The old woman smiled, 'Did you notice that there are flowers on your side of the path, but not on the other pot's side?'

'That's because I have always known about your flaw, so I planted flower seeds on your side of the path, and every day while we walk back, you water them.'  For two years I have been able to pick these beautiful flowers to decorate the table.
Without you being just the way you are, there would not be this beauty to grace the house.'
Each of us has our own unique flaw. But it's the cracks and flaws we each have that make our lives together so very interesting and rewarding.
You’ve just got to take each person for what they are and look for the good in them.

Sandy

For the last few months I have shared with you my journey with my stepmom Sandy who has ALS (aka Lou Gehrig’s disease).  Since Sandy’s diagnosis I knew the inevitable end would be her death.  As the disease progressed I made it a priority to go see her every month.  I wanted to make sure I had spent as much time with her as I could.  I am so thankful I was able to do that.  During my visit to see her in April I was able to say goodbye to her.  I won’t forget it.  I never got to say to goodbye to my Mom or Dad.  Being able to share my feelings and tell Sandy thank you for raising me and loving me like a daughter was really important to me.  In May I took Jackson down to see her with me.  She was able to see Jackson one last time.  My June trip was planned for the end of this month on the way home from our Florida vacation and both Jackson and Kevin would be with me.  But Sandy’s ALS had other plans.  The day before we left for Florida I got the call I knew would eventually come.  ALS had claimed another victim, Sandy.  She died in her sleep.  I’m thankful for that.  Even though I knew it would happen, it wasn’t any easier.  It still hit me like a ton of bricks.  I’m still trying to work through the grief of my Dad and now Sandy is gone too.  My only consolation is that they are together again.  We still plan to stop in Denver on the way home and I am dreading it.  I know once I get there it will really hit me.  I won’t be going to her apartment, I won’t be taking her to see a movie, and I won’t be stopping by McDonald’s to pick up a cheeseburger for her.  As much as I hated watching her die, I am going to miss my trips to see her terribly.  And regardless of the fact that so much of who Sandy was had already died before she did, I am going to miss seeing her so much.

For Sandy, Dad and Mom:

The Rainbow comes and goes,

And lovely is the Rose,

The Moon doth with delight

Look round her when the heavens are bare,

Waters on a starry night

Are beautiful and fair;

The sunshine is a glorious birth;

But yet I know, where’er I go,

That there hath past away a glory from the earth.

Stop the Fit Throwing!

Recently I learned a lesson from a disabled 8 year old boy whom I’ve never met.  I read about him in a magazine.  He said his motto was “You get what you get and you don’t throw a fit.”  What a genius!  Seriously, that little statement has resonated with me all week.

As a special needs parent I feel like throwing fits all the time.  When Jackson opens his hand nice and wide as I am putting his arm through the sleeve and I can’t get it over his hand.  When I am changing his poopy diaper and he kicks his leg and gets poop everywhere, especially on me.  When I am trying to put him in his car seat and he thinks it is a fun game to fight me on it.  Just writing about these examples makes me want to throw a fit!  But what really makes me want to throw a fit is when I start throwing the impending doom question of “Why my kid?” out there. 

“Why my kid?” begins a spiral of grief, anger, sadness and frustration that quite frankly I hate.  I hate it not only because of how it makes me feel but also because it is such a waste of time and energy.  It’s a dark hole to enter into and once you get down there it takes a while to come back up.  I know in my heart that there is no point in it, but inevitably the time will come where I begin thinking “Why my kid?”  As it approaches I want to throw myself on the floor, kick my legs, throw my arms around and scream “go away!”  But it doesn’t.  The unwelcome visitor comes anyway.  In the beginning after Jackson’s diagnosis I just kind of let it be.  I figured it was part of the process I was going to have to go through.  As time went on, I kept thinking it was going to go away.  Now almost 3 years after the diagnosis I am beginning to understand that this is just how things are going to be for me.  I am always going to have these moments, whether I want them or not.  Moments where I would give anything to have my kid talk back to me, to see him walk around our house, to hear him say “I love you Mommy”, and to see him work in the yard with his Daddy.  Moments where I wonder about what might have been.  Some people may feel that I have these issues because I don’t accept who Jackson is.  I disagree.  I accept who Jackson is, but as a parent I think we all want more for our children.  I want more for Jackson.  I want him to experience the life of a normal child.  Who wouldn’t want that for their child?  Right around that line of questioning is when I start coming out of the hole I just dug for myself.  Why?  Because I start wondering why that is so important.  Why is it so important that Jackson experience all the normal things?  What is normal anyway?  Imagine how boring life would be if we were all the same and experiencing all the same things! 

Being a parent with a special needs kiddo teaches you a lot of lessons.  Most of them we won’t share because we are special and unless you are in our group we just don’t have the time to explain them to you normal folk.  One I will share is that normal is way overrated.  Another lesson is that we take every minuscule opportunity to appreciate joy.  Like the other day driving Jackson home from school.  As we drove away from school he was making a ton of babbling sounds.  He was telling me about his day in his own way.  Then he started laughing.  I started laughing.  We were both laughing.  I could barely drive from all the laughter.  It was awesome!  It was joyful.  Who cares that I had no clue what Jackson thought was so funny.  Mommy and Jackson sharing a laugh set a joyful tone for the rest of our day.  Or how about last weekend when we went out on my nephew’s boat and as soon as Jackson saw the boat he got crazy excited.  He was so happy and content to sit in the seat and troll around the lake all afternoon.  It was such a joyous day!  One I know I will always remember.  Little bits of joy here and there keep me going.  Sometimes all it takes is seeing Jackson sit up on his own for more than 5 minutes.  That’s pure joy because it took him 4 years to do it!  Coming out of the hole always reminds me how silly it is to go down that hole.  Jackson is awesome.  He’s quirky, a master manipulator, extremely handsome, loves to be loved on, thinks wind is the coolest thing ever, loves being in the water, thinks the vacuum is hilarious, and doesn’t have a clue that he isn’t “normal”, or maybe he does and he just doesn’t care.  Apparently Mommy is the only one with that issue.  But I am going to steal that little boys’ motto and start living my life knowing “You get what you get and you don’t throw a fit.”